Your children will always remember you

Just came back from Fairy Park in Meru, Klang, where Mother is buried. Second brother Tai Kam is back for a one week visit and wanted to pay his respects to Mother. As usual, whenever I visit Fairy Park I had to exercise a lot of self restrain to stop the floodgate from opening up. Looking at my Mother's beautiful picture on the tombstone brought back so much memories for me. I think it did the same for Tai Kam because I noticed his eyes wetting, also trying very hard not to cry.

I remember once in a small conversation with Mother (I cannot remember the context) I asked her " What is more important, to be treated well when one is alive or when one is no longer alive?" Her answer was "Of course when I am no longer alive". I remember the "of course" was very emphatic. I could not understand her reason for saying that then. Now I think I do. Even after death she would like to know that her children remember her and give her the due respect. I hope Tai Kam's visit made her happy because this is his first visit to her resting place after 10 years.

Mother, even though as your children when you were alive, we were not the best children, we will always remember you and we hope you will forgive our mistakes and all the hurt we have caused you.